Master the Art of Communication: NLP Techniques for a Deeper Connection

Have you noticed how some people seem to have a natural gift for communication? That ability to convey ideas clearly, hold everyone’s attention, and create genuine connections in any conversation? The good news is that communicating effectively isn’t a talent reserved for just a few – it’s a skill that can be developed with the right techniques.

In this article, we’ll explore how Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) can transform your way of communicating, as well as share practical tips to improve your fluency and impact when speaking in public. Get ready to elevate your communication skills to a new level!

What is NLP and How It Revolutionizes Communication

Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) emerged in the 1970s, created by Richard Bandler and John Grinder, as a study of how we neurologically represent and perceive reality. More than a theory, NLP offers practical techniques to modify our perception and achieve specific communication goals.

But what does this technical name mean? Let’s break it down: • Programming: refers to how we structure our thoughts and actions to obtain certain results • Neuro: highlights that all behavior results from neurological processes generated by sensory experiences • Linguistic: indicates how we use language to structure thoughts, behaviors, and interactions

Communication Beyond Words

Did you know that only 7% of human communication is verbal? According to studies by Albert Mehrabian, 38% of communication is transmitted through tone of voice and an impressive 55% through body language. This means that not only what you say matters, but primarily how you say it.

In NLP, we understand that the meaning of communication is determined by the reaction it generates, regardless of the intention of the person transmitting the message. In other words, if the audience doesn’t understand or resists your message, the responsibility to adapt the communication is yours.

Develop Your Fluency and Capture the Audience’s Attention

Have you ever felt insecure when speaking in public? Stumbled over words or lost your train of thought during an important presentation? Fluency in public speaking is essential to ensure that your audience not only hears but truly absorbs your message.

Common Obstacles to Verbal Fluency

To improve your communication, we first need to identify what might be hindering it: • Repetitive filler words like “well,” “now,” “I mean,” “that is,” and “right?” • Redundancy and circular explanations about the same point • Lack of focus, rambling without a clear thought structure

5 Practical Strategies for More Fluid Communication

1. Expand your vocabulary: research the meaning of new words and incorporate them into your daily life 2. Practice mental organization: before speaking, mentally structure your ideas into complete sentences 3. Daily reading aloud: dedicate a few minutes each day to reading texts aloud, repeating difficult words until you master them 4. Write and read quickly: create short texts and practice reading them quickly to gain rhythm 5. Think before speaking: mentally organize the central idea before you start expressing your thoughts

The Power of Eye Contact in Communication

Eye contact is a powerful tool that establishes a human connection beyond words. When we talk about effective communication, proper eye contact is fundamental for several reasons: • Creates a bond of trust with your interlocutor • Keeps the audience’s attention focused on your message • Reduces distractions and increases information retention • Activates brain areas responsible for emotional connection

How to Improve Your Eye Contact

The secret is in the balance. An overly intense gaze can seem intimidating, while a scattered look conveys insecurity or disinterest. Aim for a welcoming gaze that shows genuine interest and invites connection.

In group presentations, distribute your gaze across the audience, making brief eye contact with different people. This makes everyone feel included and acknowledged.

Put It Into Practice Today!

Communicating well isn’t an innate gift but a skill that develops with consistent practice. Start applying these techniques in everyday conversations and observe how your ability to influence and connect gradually improves.

How about starting now? Choose one of the strategies mentioned and consciously practice it during the next week. Observe the results and share your experience in the comments!

Need help developing your communication skills? Look for training programs in public speaking and effective communication based on NLP.

Sources:

• Albert Mehrabian (1980) – Study on the components of human communication

• Charton Schneider (2020) – Adapted texts

• Norma Assunção (2018) – Adapted texts

• School of Theocratic Ministry; Professor Antony Arroyo (2019) – Adapted